It doesn’t happen often but when it does, it is hard to miss. That feeling you get when you are feeling purely content, similar to those feelings we have around the holidays. Feelings of joy wonder and content. For myself when I practice acceptance, I get deep feelings of content. Acceptance of who I am, where I am in my life, the people around me and my mindset. I make progress with myself, my negative self-talk, my assumptions and great expectations only when I accept what is. I then have a strong sense that I am grounded and deep feelings of satisfaction follow.
I have to say, that for the majority of my life, I have not liked working on myself. I saw it as a nuisance. Deep reflection, exercising, meditating and eating healthy has always been a struggle. My go to reaction to change and uncomfortable situations is flight. I would rather not think about things. But as I am getting older, I am learning that to access these deep feelings of contentment and joy throughout the entire year, not just the holidays, is to practice acceptance. I learned to accept the trajectory of my growth, the pace of my life and to trust the people around me. Accepting the truly uncomfortable parts of our personalities and dealing with the ugly parts of others is also part of joy. The holidays can get messy, as our lives get messy as well. We get triggered everyday by people and situations that take us to places emotionally we don’t want to be. Embracing these uncomfortable feelings during the holidays and throughout the year is what leads to joy and contentment. This is the lesson that I learned this year. To grow truly is to step into a mindset that may make you feel uncomfortable for a bit.
The work that you do on yourself and the lessons you learn from your growth is compounded over time. The rewards from this work is felt over generations. Eventually you start understanding yourself and you get to a place where you see why a particular situation led you to that person, thing, place or whatever it is that is happening in the moment, good or bad. What I have learned is to listen to each moment. Without judgment and criticism. This is very difficult to do but is well worth practicing over time because nothing stays the same and the bad moments we think we are experiencing are actually not as bad as we make them out to be.
When you get those holiday feels, the joy, the contentment and you feel as if your life is at peace, cherish those feelings, put them in your pocket and use them for the low days that will inevitably come. Growth continues and evolves as you practice getting familiar with feeling uncomfortable and practice accessing feelings of joy and gratitude when you really need it. When I practice acceptance, and see situations in a rational way, I feel content. Acceptance is key. And remember, situations and people don’t always stay the same, there is always room for change and things do change, always!
Happy Holidays and keep moving and growing, because there will always be feelings of joy, just around the corner. I promise.